A Firm Believer In Fate & Everything Happens For A Reason

Thursday, August 15, 2013


Hello Lovelies

Today in England/Uk it is A Level results day, I said in a recent video that I would love to hear how all my subscribers and blog followers did in their exams and to let me know, so far I have had a lot of tweets and emails and messages on Instagram from people telling me how they've done, some very happy and some absolutely devastated and it compelled me to write this post. 

I am a firm believer in fate and that everything happens for a reason, I have been through a rough time over and over again and since around 2004 things seem to have gone from bad to worse. 

Writing this post isn't me preaching or telling anyone what to do at all, it's just me saying don't worry if you didn't get the results you wanted today in your A levels or next Thursday in your GCSE's, we can only try our best in life and if you have worked hard and done your best nobody expects any more than that, it isn't possible to do better than your best. 

And even though right now it probably feels like the absolute worst feeling in the world and like your whole life is over, it isn't I promise, don't feel bad, or ashamed, depressed or embarrassed you have no reason at all to feel that way. 

I failed all my GCSE's apart from my 2 English exams, but I didn't try my best I completely messed it up and had nobody but myself to blame, I was stupid looking back but hindsight is a wonderful thing!  I went back to college and I re sat them all and did some other courses too and I passed them, then I started college to do my A levels and guess what grades I got for my A levels?

I got - 


Yes that's right, I got a baby, I didn't finish my A levels because I fell pregnant at 17 years old and was a mum when I was 18, it was never ever in my plans to be a mum, I was going to college to do my A levels and then I wanted to work in a prison or be a social worker. Things didn't quite work out that way though and I was a mummy at 18, no A levels, no uni and definitely no prison warden or social worker, but you know what? It was the best thing that ever happened to me, well Cole was. 
My life changed dramatically when I found out I was pregnant, I went from being at college and having a plan to sitting in my bedroom at my dads crying and panicking because I thought my parents were going to hit the roof. 
But they didn't, my dad was very supportive, my mum cried but came round to the idea very quickly and having Nichole was the best thing I'd done.

  I'm not saying if you didn't pass your A levels go out and get pregnant and be a teenage mum, what I'm saying is, don't worry, there are always other ways round things. Please don't think it is the end of the world not getting the results you wanted, I had Cole and then did all sorts of jobs I worked in a sandwich shop, I worked in a mail order factory both in the evenings, and then I worked as a supervisor at Debenhams amongst other things. I had Lissy and a friend of mine said she thought I'd be a good nurse so I went into nursing and apart from having my children it was the best decision I have ever made.

If someone had told me 22 years ago that I'd have been a nurse I'd have laughed, I never wanted to be a nurse the thought never entered my head but I loved it and am so glad I went for it, I am now medically retired because of my terminal condition but I miss nursing every day, and it was never part of the plan.

I know this post is a bit of a ramble and if you've made it this far you're a superstar, but I just wanted to say no matter what, you'll be ok, everything really does happen for a reason, I truly believe that, and for some of the things I've been through I am yet to find that reason but I know there'll be one. 

So if today didn't go as you'd planned it, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and know that no matter what you'll be ok, there are many ways round things and if you have a career in mind and needed the grades there are ways round it, you might decide to have a gap year, or do some work experience or get a job but all these things mould us into who we are, the fear of the unknown can be terrifying but consider it a new challenge.

And above all else keep smiling, you did your best and should be proud, it isn't easy sitting any exam and revising and you did it, be proud of who you are and what you will become, if you want something badly enough you will get there, you might just have to take a de tour. 

Keep smiling :) 

Thank you for reading, much love as always

Zoe x

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